Monday, August 31, 2015

What Kind of Divorce-to-be-Done person are You?

What kind of Divorce-to-be-done person are YOU?  This refers to clients getting divorced.

Attorney has seen the gamut but let's just go over some of more frequently seen personas.
Attorney is friendly and accepting of the circumstances,  and in that realm, Attorneys finds that many people take the same path. Normally, they suffer. But also, they can fall into certain patterns. There is no right way to react to something that is stressful, difficult, and emotional. Just don't use too much Facebook and create harm to your case!

  Below are some of the general categories of emotion that Attorney (and probably every divorce attorney in the USA)  -- has seen:

Whoo! Hoo! Yippee!:  I have never been so happy to get rid of him/her and never, ever again!

Hindsight:  I should have dumped him/her 10 years ago. Sigh.

Victim:   I didn't do anything to deserve this and I can't believe he/she is doing this to me. It's not me.

Madder than Ever:  I am so mad I could kill him/her so if I can't then I want to do anything I can to get back at him/her.

Ignoring facts, and living in Fantasia:  Well, I might not have to get a divorce because he/she will probably come back and if I do what he/she really wants, I can be a different person.

The Ultimate Best Parent in the World:  I really am the ultimate best parent for my kids, he/she has no clue about kids, about my kids, and no matter what he/she will do, he/she will never, ever be as good a parent as I am, that is the truth. I want all the custody.

I Don't Really Care Just Get It Over With:  I just want this done quickly, I don't care what he/she wants, I will agree as long as I can afford it, and I don't need his/her crap, and I don't want to see him/her again. I might see the kids but they don't really want to see me because he/she turned kids
against me..... I need single malt Scotch, or possibly Remy Martin Louis XIII in a pinch.**

Difficult and Possibly Impossible:  This can only be described as the client from hell that wants to do everything his/her way, refuses to take Attorney's advice, ignores Court orders, makes everything very expensive because nothing is turned in on time, or it is purposely withheld; further, no amount of logic or fact will help client do what he/she has to do.  Clients like this will end up in contempt and then blame Attorney or the other Party. Normally this means the person is exceptionally unhappy and cannot bear any blame for anything. Clients like this-- if they turn impossible, I am afraid I do drop them because I cannot do my job for them.

** Bourbon/whisky are outselling vodka these days...........  I had to look it up after I heard
client say it, just so I wouldn't be in the dark...........



Rémy Acquires Rising Bruichladdich Single Malt For $90M

July 23, 2012
Two weeks after entering exclusive talks with the owners of Bruichladdich, Rémy Cointreau has agreed to acquire the Islay single malt Scotch whisky brand for £58 million ($89.9m). 
The Bruichladdich acquisition marks Rémy’s entry into Scotch whisky brand ownership. While the company’s American arm, Rémy Cointreau USA, already markets Edrington Group’s Macallan and Highland Park single malts, the addition of Bruichladdich should give Rémy a boost in Asian markets like China, where Scotch and Cognac vie for leadership of the fast-rising imported spirits category. Rémy is already well-positioned in Cognac with Rémy Martin, the world’s second-leading Cognac brand and one of the top-selling imported spirits brands in China.



Friday, August 7, 2015

Is it Illegal to Leave Your Family Dog Unattended in Car in CA?

Note: Attorney also practices animal law/related cases;civil+criminal. And because most people love animals, we have the following:

According to the Sacramento Animal Control, if the vehicle registers 91 degrees inside, using a heat gun to measure temperature, they can break in and seize the animal and you can be charged under the CA animal cruelty statute, normally PC 597.1 (generalized abuse/negligence) or specifically if dog is in car, PC 597.7  We are actually aware of a case where dog was unintentionally left in the car and expired, without owner even knowing dog was missing.  We believe AC characterized the case as accidental since the car was in the owner's driveway.

In addition, you would likely be charged for the stay of your dog in the pound, and any vet or medical expenses. Charges under PC 597.1 are misdemeanor or felony. Attorney just completed case for felony charge of alleged animal abuse for using art tape as a muzzle on a dog; the tape has virtually no stick to it and the dog had already eaten, and could drink water, shade was provided. Other apartment dwellers turned in owners, who elected to take plea of misdemeanor, 2wk ankle bracelet. While we believe at least one client could have been acquitted since he was not even there when it happened, he chose to take the plea. For Sacramento criminal cases, we have information as to which District Attorneys will be hard on any alleged abusers, and who will prosecute no matter what.

Below is what a Southern California Family Law Attorney wrote about--and it goes to show you, animal activists turn anyone and everyone in for anything they think is abuse. For example, dog off leash is abuse in NM. Dog Running at large in Paradise, CA is considered "a potentially dangerous dog." Dog harming any other animal or livestock is considered dangerous. So Beware.



Is It Illegal to Leave a Dog Unattended in Your Car in California?Posted on Mar 8, 2015 6:30pm PDT

Is It Against the Law to Leave My Dog Locked in My Car -

A Lesson in Mindfulness and the Law?

So, its my Blog and I can rant if I want to?

If you've visited our Enlightened Divorce Blog over the years you may have bumped into my posts about Jake, my former beloved Jack Russell, and Jasmine - another Jack who is now the puppy love of my life. I am devoted to those people and animals that I care about and can protect, and would never knowingly put them in harm's way. I'd wager this is true for you too. Our relationships with our animal dependents mirror our relationship with others, and ourselves.

Many, if not most, other people feel and respond similarly with respect to honoring our obligations to the beings entrusted to their care. We can only wish that when that time arises for us, others will similarly honor their responsibilities. Unfortunately, this social contract is, particularly in divorce when conflict escalates, often a tragic karmic loop. Break the parental contract with your child, for instance, and and reap the consequences and unleash them on society too.

Fail to water your dog or cat, and they will die. Beat them and they will attack your neighbor. Likewise, the experience and choices of people in divorce is just one facet of the 10,000 jewels that add up to the quality of our lives and what we bequeath. And, pointers show up in the smallest things.

Some months ago I stopped at a 7-Eleven, together with Jasmine. It was probably 85 degrees here in Palm Springs that day, and I opened the sun-roof, and the windows. Unsuspecting as I exited the car, I was approached by a gentleman who insisted that it was AGAINST THE LAW to leave my dog in my car, even for a moment. He offered to call the police if I disagreed, and came way too close to us.

I kept my mouth mostly shut, leashed Jazzie and took her in the store with me. For awhile afterwards I replayed the exchange (sound familiar?), with stories of how it might have gone differently. Some were more enlightened than others. I understood that leaving a dog, or a baby, could become a recipe for heartbreak, disaster or worse and on that level the point the fellow made was valid.

Today I watched a similar ambush unfold between another 'good Samaritan' and a dog owner. What triggered the memories of my own experience was the level of hostility from a self-appointed law enforcement civilian towards the guy who'd left his dog in the car while he evidently went grocery shopping (a long list, a short list? I dunno).

He informed the dog owner that it is AGAINST THE LAW IN CALIFORNIA!!! to leave his dog in the car. The dog-owner was obviously embarrassed, and responded that he was sorry, from Canada, and didn't know - he tried to back away from the exchange quickly.

I thought I might as well help clarify the rules relating to leaving dogs in cars. California Penal Code section 597.7, entitled "Unlawful leaving of an animal in an unattended motor vehicle", subsection (a) states:

"No person shall leave or confine an animal in any unattended motor vehicle under conditions that endanger the health or well-being of an animal due to heat, cold, lack of adequate ventilation, or lack of food or water, or other circumstances that could reasonably be expected to cause suffering, disability, or death to the animal."

Violation of that statute is a misdemeanor, subjecting the violator up to six months in jail and/or a $500 fine.

Leaving your dog in the car after the sun is down and air temps are low, as was this situation, does not appear to be a crime. However, that does not make it a good idea, I confess. Good judgment is required.

A number of Municipal Codes - including the Palm Springs Municipal Code ("PSMC") - have a zero tolerance towards leaving pets unattended in an "enclosed" vehicle (probably including the cities he knew). PSMC section 10.22.020.

Essentially, however, the City can only impound the animal, within a police or animal control officer's discretion. You will not be arrested.

While people do incredibly stupid things all the time involving those creatures they are charged with protecting and it may be appropriate for us to point that out to others in proper situations (or intervene in much stronger ways if life and safety truly are at risk), this world needs more equanimity - even on the small stuff.

We will be far more effective expressing our concerns with balance, rather than taking on the role of policeman in our dealings with each other, at the grocery store and on the streets.

Unfortunately, the behaviors I am describing are but a tiny reflection of a larger malaise in our society, in these times. Our entire nation would do well to consider that having a perspective about every other nation's or people's behavior does not make our views helpful or useful for our own interests. The microcosm of our day-to-day interactions tracks and reflects back the larger picture and circumstances.

As it relates to divorce, co-parenting, and moving on in the land of relationship-end, there are lessons that might be generalized from this minor story about how we approach each other, out there in the world. Worth a thought? In the meantime, much can be achieved when we convey our concerns in ways that don't raise the hackles others.

Author: Thurman W. Arnold, III

Waiting for Hearing with his Attorney, Defendant was Killed Outside Courthouse


COURT SECURITY

http://www.abajournal.com/news/article/defendant_is_fatally_shot_outside_courthouse_while_with_his_lawyer_awaiting/

Defendant is fatally shot outside courthouse while awaiting hearing with his lawyer


Updated: A defendant in a drug case was killed outside a Mississippi courthouse Monday morning when a former firefighter with no criminal history walked up to him and fatally shot him in the chest, authorities said.
A lawyer for Kendrick Armond Brown, 37, was with him at the time for a scheduled hearing and witnessed the slaying, District Attorney Michael Guest told the Clarion-Ledger. The DA also said he believes the shooting could not have been prevented, since it occurred outside the new Madison County courthouse in Canton, rather than inside.
The suspect in the slaying, William Wells, 24, laid down his gun after the attack and surrendered to deputies, said Madison County Sheriff Randy Tucker. Wells has been charged with murder.
What motivated the crime is still under investigation. However, Guest said the mother of William Wells had been scheduled to testify against Brown and was herself shot over the past weekend. It is possible the shooting of Brown was in retaliation, the DA said.
“That’s how it appears,” Guest told the newspaper.
Sherry Wells was shot Saturday evening as she was preparing to go to work, Canton Police Chief Otha Brown told the newspaper. “Someone shot into the vehicle and hit her in the leg.” She was not severely injured and reportedly is no longer hospitalized.
The Associated Press also has a story.
Updated at 3:55 p.m. to include subsequent Clarion-Ledger coverage.